I’ve never understood people who deliberately stand in the way of someone’s success. While I do know that insecurity can be the root of such behavior, it’s still so contrary to anything I would ever do that I just can’t get my head around it. But it happens all the time. And, yes, I’ve been on the receiving end, and it hurts. A lot.

As much as we tell ourselves, it’s not us; it’s them, that doesn’t take away all the pain of disappointment. The good news is that I’ve found a smart strategy for progressing toward forgiveness and moving forward: “Be what you want to receive.”

Light a lamp for someone else. Give what you desire. Be a mentor, a coach, a cheerleader. Support a friend, family member, or new acquaintance as they work toward their goal.

One of the best-known methods for invigorating one’s spirit and soul is charity. Here’s the best part of all: it doesn’t matter if your charity is in the form of thought, word or deed. When giving selflessly to others, you are nurturing your personal divinity.

Practice Detachment

Do you find yourself repeatedly going back to the feeling of disappointment? Practicing detachment can help you regain a calm state of mind.

When you find yourself remembering what you want to release, recite a mantra to remind yourself to let go.

I will let go of this replay and move on.

By telling yourself that you will let the memory go, you are no longer victim to your emotions. Rather, you detach from the emotion, clear your mind, and reset. Save your energy for the good stuff in life by letting the bad stuff go. You’ll feel so much better when you do.

There’s also another method of practicing detachment. In his famous book “The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success,” Deepak Chopra talks about the Law of Detachment which states: To achieve anything in the physical universe, you first must relinquish your attachment to it.

That doesn’t mean you give up your intention to reach your goal; rather, it means that while you take the steps necessary to get to where you want to go, you release the “need” to have it. Allow it to come in its own way, in its own time.

Not easy to do when you desperately want something! However, practicing detachment is an excellent exercise in developing a mindset for patience and allowing.

Know what you want. Do what you can. Be a light for others. Then sit back with a smile on your face and relax!

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