There are few quick fixes for anything, and I’m not about to tell you this is a miracle fix. However, if you give it time and follow a few simple guidelines, the chances of you feeling better are in your favor.
How we feel is directly connected to our mindset: what we think about ourselves, our surroundings, family, friends, work. Yes, it all factors into our mental well-being. Another factor is how much value we put on the opinions of others–especially as it concerns their beliefs about you.
Guess what? What YOU think of you is all that matters. What others think or say about you is none of your business. And if they vomit those thoughts and feelings on you and it brings you down, recognize the issue is with them. Many times when people say negative things about you, it is only to feel better about themselves.
It’s All About Mindset
The more mindful you are of your thoughts and feelings the easier it becomes to shift your mindset when you fall into negative thinking or catch yourself worrying about what others are thinking. This is all about inner work, and one of the first things you need to master is control of the voice in your head. Also known as monkey mind, this inner voice is in constant chat mode, often replaying what you’ve heard — negativity, self-deprecation, defensiveness, and the inability to see the gifts through the fog of daily living.
Don’t be an idiot; tell her what you really think!
I should have gotten that job; I’m so much more experienced than him.
Why does everything always go wrong? I hate my life!
Pay attention to the words you hear in your mind. Listen to what say to yourself and what others around you are saying. If what you are hearing doesn’t make you feel good, then stop the language–even if it means ending a conversation (or a friendship).
Every day is a gift. It’s another chance to see through the veil obstructing the beauty! If those around us are negative, it can be hard to remain positive? And, if the negative Nellie’s are coworkers, you’re probably stuck with them until you find a better working environment.
In the meantime, you can try practicing grateful intentions.
Gratitude, Projection, Acceptance
- Begin every day with mindfulness about what is good in your life. List at least five things before getting out of bed and starting your day.
- Project all the good you anticipate in the day. If you find yourself thinking about something that doesn’t feel good, look for a silver lining or a better feeling thought. Decide for yourself what you want and then imagine how wonderful it will feel to have it unfold just as you imagined.
- Accept yourself and others where you/they are. You’ll find yourself slipping back into negativity, but the fact that you catch yourself is a good sign. Just reset with gentle words of gratitude and begin again. When people around you are negative, accept them where they are but don’t let them define where YOU are! Share the good things in your own life, even little things. Your projection will be a positive impact on them.
- If you need a reminder to be gentle in your thoughts, tie a red ribbon around your wrist. In energy work, a red bracelet around the wrist can become charged with energies to protect the wearer.
You hold the key to your happiness. It’s just a matter of believing that you determine how you think and feel! Use the mindful practice of grateful intentions to establish a pattern of gratitude, projection, and acceptance, and see what a difference attitude can make in your life.